Do you ever find yourself over-giving to your clients?
In this blog, I’m going to talk about the negative effect that over-giving can have both on your energy body and the energy body of your business. I’m also going to give you some tips to help shift this energy and bring some more balance into your giving.
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So when we talk about over-giving, it’s mostly related to the heart chakra which is where the energy of giving, love and sharing comes from. So it does play an important role there.
And one aspect of the heart chakra is that giving and receiving must be in balance, you must receive as much as you give.
Now very often when I observe the heart chakras of clients who over-give, that balance is not there.
The over-giving is not balanced by an over-receiving.
So that shows me that there’s an imbalance in the giving aspect of the heart chakra, and that does not serve the client and it does not serve you.
Where does the source of the over-giving come from though? The source of the over-giving does not come from the heart chakra, the source of the over-giving comes from the solar plexus chakra. This is your power chakra, this is your chakra where you set your boundaries.
Over-giving comes from a lack of boundaries.
Over-giving comes from a lack of self-worth which is another aspect of the solar plexus chakra.
So you are giving in the hope that the recipient will praise you more, be more grateful, and that you will receive more by over-giving – but it doesn’t work that way.
What over-giving does, is it depletes you energetically because you are not receiving that same energy back in through the heart chakra that you are giving out.
And so you become depleted, which makes it much harder for you to show up and serve.
The other thing is, it means you are not serving from an empowered place, you are serving from a place of disempowerment and you are giving your power away through that.
So as you can see, the cycle of over-giving can create a lot of negative consequences, but it’s also about diving deeper into why this over-giving is happening.
If you are running a business, you want the receiving of the business to be equal to the giving out. So the over-giving has a huge impact on your business’s energy body as well because the receiving and the giving are not in balance. In actual fact, the ideal is to receive a little more than you give, so that you’re always operating from a really full place.
So what can you do about this?
Here are three practical things you can do in your business to stop the over-giving:
1. Observe when you’re over-giving
Are you offering a little more than what your offer is? You might say to a client, ‘For this price, you will get this session. Oh, I’ll just throw in that as well.’ Or you might be selling a programme and think, ‘I’ll just give them that as well. And I’ll give them that as well. Oh, what the heck, I’ll give them that as well.’
It’s as though you have to keep over-giving to create the worth.
So observe when you do that.
And if you can catch yourself and not do it – but observe that you went to do it – that’s valuable information for you.
A part of over-giving in business means that you might run overtime. You may feel that this is awesome for your client, they’re getting this extra time from you.
But it might actually be frustrating for your client. They may have thought that they only had to put aside this much time and you’re taking extra time.
This brings me to my second point.
2. Keep to the time
Again, observe. Why are you doing that? Why are you giving more than you are receiving for that session? You’re receiving a certain payment for a certain amount of time. Why do you feel the need to give more?
3. Connect your solar plexus and heart chakra
I would like you to choose one thing every day that you are going to give to yourself. This will empower your solar plexus chakra, it will empower your sense of self-worth, and it will mean that your heart chakra is receiving from you.
Every day, decide on one thing when you wake – what is one thing I am going to give myself today? Acknowledge it. It could be something so small like just going and sitting on the grass for five minutes.
But you do it with the full intention that you are giving to yourself, so you can fill that cup.
I hope you’ve enjoyed this post. I’d love you to share in the comments below – where do you see yourself over-giving in your business? And what will you do to help shift and bring balance to the energy in that situation?
If you’d love to find out more about the solar plexus chakra and the boundaries around over-giving, I recommend Blog 17 – How do your solar plexus chakra blocks reflect in your business?
Let’s create alchemy in your business!